Also, TP has a seriously annoying young Airedale who not only jumps on you continually, but today the dog bit me twice. In play, but it freaking hurt, the teeth went right through my gloves.
As I arrived, I saw TP across the street with her dog, talking to Ani with Rudi. I waited for them by the main entrance and finally Ani made her way over. She told me we're not supposed to put our arena fee in the mail box anymore. "And when no one is home?" I asked, and she shrugged. I asked,"Why?" She replied, "They're getting a divorce and she doesn't want her husband getting the money."
WHAT!? Oh dear. On the one hand I am happy for Charly because she runs his life and complains about him behind his back. But what will happen to their lovely farm?
I noticed they had a new boarder in a pen, and had lost another. They can't seem to keep people because 1. They want 450E per month (with your horse living in a stall and if the weather is nice, another stall with a 20X10 foot pen) and 2. TP herself.
Ani said, "TP asked me if I'd help her out around the farm because she's divorcing her husband and needs help." I said, "I must warn you - you know how picky I am about my farm? She's worse. It will NOT be pleasant."
This place is perfect for you if you think horses should be protected from the outdoors. Apparently there are people who believe this. There are times in Winter when their horses don't even get to be in the outdoor stalls - they are tucked away indoors.
Their little fields are gorgeous and their 4 horses have not been on them yet this year. It disgusts me how the grass is more important than the horses. Also, how on earth could they not have learned their lesson when their horse almost died impaling itself on a fence post made of REBAR? I noticed more than one piece of rebar still being used as posts today. (Remember me freaking out about the poor TB's subcutaneous crepitation?)
Their property is on Hohestrasse, the main drag through town, so we drive by anytime we go anywhere. You never see the horses out on grass except for a few hours a day in late Summer.
I saw Charly talking on his cell phone a ways away and I needed to go into their supply area by their horse pens and get my lunging whip. I very carefully positioned Mag so he couldn't touch the nearest horse, and tried to reach the back corner. Suddenly Charly shouted over at me, "Get your horse away from my horses!"
I thought this was strange because I'm always careful to not let Mag near them - that's a farm rule of theirs. I asked him, "Can I just get my things?" And he shouted the same phrase again at me. Hrm. He didn't have to be so mean about it!
So I backed up a few paces and just stood there, waiting for him to get off the phone. I don't dare tie Mag up at their place - they have the most dangerous fencing - metal bars that would hold rabid elephants and Mag would kill himself on them.
Finally TP came and rescued me, she went and got my whip and told me to stop keeping it there. Huh, OK. It's been there for 3 years because it's not convenient to carry back and forth every time I wanted to lunge Mag.
Ani and I joked later, "For a 2 Euro fee, we'll let you keep your whip here. 2 Euros per day."
As Ani rode Rudi around, I politely lunged Mag in a small circle keeping out of her way.
At first Mag did this weird bolt and tucked his tail into a J shape and almost ran into me. What was that? Right, he always explodes here on the lunge line. It's what he's "supposed" to do. *sigh*
So I carefully lunged him at a walk until he was bored to tears. I also did a lot of hindquarter-disengage to walk "transitions." Then I let him jog, very carefully until he was bored again. I didn't ask for any canter because I wanted to show him he can remain calm on the lunge. And it worked.
Susanne showed up and started schooling Ani. Then she came over and I said, "I'm not riding today. But you are welcome to ride Mag if you like."
I was surprised when she said she would!
She went and got her riding helmet AND back brace. Safety first.
Then she spent a very long time lunging Mag, I guess to build a relationship. I thought it was odd that she did it for so long when she was supposed to split the hour between Ani and me.
Then she asked me to remove my saddle bags (that I always ride with) and she carefully removed the 3 carabiners from my saddle. I had to smile cuz I remember Mag's seller doing the same thing - removing all the crap from my saddle before I was allowed ot ride him. (Carabiners!)
Then she said, "Please take the lunge whip out of the arena." I thought that was an odd request but then flashed back to my old trainer Katrin who, when she rode Mara, had me remove the lead line that was hanging from the arena fence.
They are scared these items might provoke a spook. Hm!
She took Mag to the mounting block and he lined up properly.
She climbed up there and as soon as she made a move to mount, he sprang away. One jump, just enough to say, "No, you will not get on my back."
She tried a few more times but he just stepped away, "I said no."
Susanne looked at me and smiled, "He's afraid of things that are above him!"
I said, "No, it's not that."
She said, "He'd do the same if you tried!"
I said, "No he won't."
To prove it I lined him up again, stood on the mounting block, and Mag dropped his head and relaxed. She said, "Oh! He's a one-person horse!" She went on to say it's an Arabian thing, but I don't buy that. All the Arabs I've known, none of them were like that.
I got on just to show her he's fine, although I have to admit, it flashed through my mind, "What if it's not OK for me either!"
She told me she'd need months of solid work with him to fix him. That he needs rehabilitation. A "korrektur-pferd" she called him.
Makes me wonder why she's OK coming out only once per month, but oh well.
Then she went back to teaching Ani and I folllowed them around, watching. It was as exciting as wet paint but I think Ani was happy about the lesson.
Susanne told me I need to reimburse Ani for half the price of her lesson because she spent so much time with Mag. Annoying cuz she was the one who decided to lunge Mag for 20 minutes straight!
As we were leaving the arena Ani stopped to pick out Rudi's hooves. It's a German thing. They don't want to lose the precious sand so they attach a hoof pick to the arena gate. She tried to hand me the hoofpick and I said, "Quatsch (BS), I'm not picking his hooves, I'm paying 7 Euros!"
Rudi ate grass as Ani picked her hooves, and gathered up her things. Ani said, "I wonder if they'll charge me for the grass she's eating." *lol*
I'm curious what will happen to this picture-perfect, horse-unfriendly farm.
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I am so frustrated just reading this, I cannot imagine how you feel. And no, I would not be reimbursing Ani for the lesson.
Teresa, it doesn't seem fair, now that you mention it, that I should pay for a decision that was not my own. It was Susanne's decision to spend her time like that. I do feel bad for Ani though. I think I'll talk to Ani about it and tell her she can have the majority of our next lesson's time. It's tricky cuz Ani adores Susanne and wouldn't appreciate me disagreeing with Susanne.
Sorry that I made you frustrated! I imagine I'm not the kind of student a riding instructor wants to have, cuz I flat out disagree with them so often.
I should have been clearer. I am frustrated on your behalf! Not with you!
I am also going to put forward the theory that Mag is a very sensitive horse and reads you very well.
He is likely picking up your nervousness about being at this site and feeding off it (if you are worried it must be worth worrying about). I only say this because of what Carmen has taught me.
I'm also going to be frank and say that I think you would do better on your own with Mag than with Susanne at this point. You do have the tools to help him, I believe that you just need to believe in yourself. (look at the work you did when you boarded him).
You know, there is the real actual universe, and then there is this alternate universe that the people in that country live in. I cannot think of one horse person you have come in contact with that I can respect. They all have esoteric unreal ideas about horses. I am sorry to be so blunt, but it is maddening. I don't think there are any horse people here who say it would take a month to "rehabilitate" Mag about standing still while another person mounted him. (???????) He doesn't need rehabilitating! Unlike Mara who had a ticky boom, there is nothing wrong with Mag! He just needs work. I do think that long trots and gallops would be very good for him, even if it is just around your new pasture. I've had 3 Arabians. an they are very sensitive horses. It could be that Mag is just picking up on all the weirdness that resides in those peoples minds about horses. My Texas Heeler (half Aussie, half Blue Heeler), is very sensitive to me. I had another one who was the same way. I could lift an eye brow at a horse, and she'd go ballistic. My Arabians were the same way, very attuned, a blessing and a bane. The fact that this trainer does nothing about her dog's horrible behavior says a lot. I am trying very hoard not to drop F bombs here, but in my mind they are exploding. I am at an age (66) where I do not suffer fools gladly.
I love your approach to horses because you are such a realist. I follow Matt Harnake on Instagram and YouTube because he is so real about horses. He understands them so well. (He's from Australia, more or less.) I am sorry that you are subjected to so much nonsense.
Teresa, I understood but felt bad anyway cuz I was really emotional when I wrote the post and I guess you could tell. (And Charly really hurt my feelings - the last time I saw him I caught his dog for him that was running through traffic! And he got his truck stuck in the snow and I told him what gear he needed to get out. AGH. But if he's going through a divorce......I should forgive him.)
I know you're right, that I'd be fine on my own. Eventually it will happen, for now I'm a coward. Realistically though, Susanne is pretty much worthless to me, to the point of almost being humorous except for the prices she charges. Sharing the fee is the only way to go with her.
There really is a "One Person Horses's" and I think that is what you have. It's not breed specific...it's heart specific.
I am a one-woman-horse partner and can attest to their existence. Im convinced Mag is the same. If I wanted, I could train it out of my Q ... but I choose not to because he is wonderful and our bond is awesome. Yes, it means we progress more slowly. Yes, it means we can not work with just any trainer. But he takes care of me, and I take care of him. Nothing else matters.
Toad was a "one person horse"...and his owner allowed that to be the case. I wouldn't have minded other people riding him, but nobody was as stupid as me in those days. After I gave him back, nobody could stay on him, not that she had a bunch of competent riders clamoring for the opportunity, only newbies. The problem was that, when he developed a massive kidney stone that would require $$surgery to remove, they opted for euthanasia instead. It was not a bad choice--but there would have been MORE choices if he was ridable.
They didn't tell me about it until a week after he was put down.
All this by way of a cautionary tale: the Dragon PREFERS to be ridden by me, but she CAN be ridden by anybody. Because if something happens to me, I want there to be options for her.
KB, your post about the actual universe vs my current one *lol*. I asked my husband to read "just the first line" of your comment and he burst out laughing and then burst out again two more times as he read the entire thing, and ended with, "She should be a comedian." E.G. "Picking up on the weirdness in the minds of those horse people" We were ROTFL together.
Wouldn't it be grand, if I had a place to long trot my horse. Unfortunately every trail ends after a few minutes at a walk, at another street. If I owned a hauling vehicle and trailer, I would fantasize about being able to take him to a trail long enough to long trot on. That would be several hours from here. And I have no idea how to go about that. I live in the most densely populated state in Germany. 83 million packed into the size of Montana. Back home, I traileredd most often when I rode, took my horse to the foot of the mountain, a 10 minute drive, rode at a trot/walk/canter to the top, then walked down and drove home again.
I have to admit to you that my man figured out that I'd sort of tricked Susanne into trying to ride Mag. After starting the story tonight, "As you know, only 4 people have ridden Mag that are not me, since we bought him. Two of them did not work out well, another required tricking him into letting her mount. (I'm so bad.)"
My man stopped me, "You asked her to ride Mag, didn't you."
Well?
I had to see. My man immediately said, "I wanna try." NO! Wait. It's not dangerous, you just act as if yer gonna get on, and Mag either says Ja or Nein. HRM! Good point.
Thanks so much for giving us some laughter tonight "blessing and bane" and I'll check out that trainer you mentioned.
*hug*
It's an Arabian thing. Ashke is very particular about who he allows on him. I would trust Mags on this one.
If you want to fix this, you have to restart at ground zero. Do what Stacy Westfall does with Jac and have the new person you want to ride Mag restart your horse. You must not assume that any stranger can just get on a mounting block and jump on. That stranger has to have gained the trust, and be ready to spend the time and build the relationship.
Your husband might actually have a better chance, if he starts from step 1, because he is part of the family and probably helps with the feeding. Have you ever started a young colt? That’s how you need to treat Mag if you really want to fix this.
A round pen or very small arena would be important. And keep Mag on a lungeline for the first few rides, for safety reasons.
I am appalled that she asked for money for that. If she had expected to be paid for it, she should have clarified that up front. I agree with Kitty Bo, and have also noticed in the time I've lived in Germany that there is a particular kind of person drawn to esoteric and totally divorced-from-reality ideas about their hobbies, whether it's animals, or health, art, or spirituality, combined with the need to be recognised as a world's leading authority on the topic. It's a very egocentric and unempathetic way to be.
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