Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Ani's giving up on Mira?

This is really hard for me to grasp; it doesn't make complete sense to me. It does give some answers to my ponderings about Mira in the last few months.

When I met Ani today she burst into tears right there on the street and cried on my shoulder for a very long time without speaking.  I finally got her to talk and she said she has to give Mira up, and Mira will probably die. What?

She explained this all in jagged English to help me grasp the concepts, but I still took a while.

So...Ani doesn't actually own Mira.

Huh? I remember specifically asking her if Mira was a lease, because I know Ani had leased two other neighborhood horses before Mira. I recall her answer was no, not a lease.

But a messed up situation indeed. Somehow for the past 1.5 years Ani has taken over virtually all aspects of ownership (hence the "white lie" she told). In fact, her owner does nothing with the horse except pitch in 50Euros per month toward her care. Ani pays all the rest, and this last year the vet bills have been piling up.

Last week remember Ani was having trouble riding Mira, Mira was acting stiffer than normal, so she called the chiropractor out. Today she didn't even ride, she just led Mira on foot. Now it makes sense why Ani didn't feel comfortable backing Mira up alongside a bench to mount. (Why am I so judgemental!)

Last Winter Mira had a tooth infection and could not eat, and Ani was beside herself, thinking the mare would surely die. But she nursed her back to health and has been giving her supplements and mashes that she carries to her twice daily on her bicycle (ugh!).

Ani told me she's done with it, if she cannot own the mare 100%, but must pay most of the bills, she'll quit. She gave the owner an ultimatum yesterday, "Give her to me completely or take care of her yourself."

The owner (who supposedly visits Mira 3X yearly) refused, saying she won't give up ownership of the horse. (How odd, to never do anything with an elderly horse, but refuse to pay its costs and refuse to give it up to the person who does.)

I said, "This is reminiscent of when King Solomon offered to cut a baby in half to determine its real mother - the real mother would rather give it up than have half a baby."

I don't understand how this happened, but I can guess that the reason Ani wants out is the amount of vet bills lately (and she's on welfare).

I asked her, "Did you have another bad experience with leasing?"

More than one - she had the Haflinger who lived up our street, until the owner stopped caring for the horse and she felt it was an abusive situation so she backed out.

Then the big white horse she leased before Mira, the owner just took the horse to another state one day and never came back, and never even warned her.

Leasing doesn't have to suck, I know, but for Ani it sure has.

I suggested Ani sell the saddle and offer to buy Mira with that money - Mira is 26 and no one else would buy her, she shows her age. I don't know if Ani will do that but she asked me to help her tomorrow to get her tack out of the barn, cuz she doesn't expect it to go well.

Sadly Ani expects that when the owner keeps the mare, she won't get two buckets per day, and certainly not chiropractic visits and regular slow riding to keep her moving. : ( Ani feels it's a death sentence for Mira.

And selfishly, what am I gonna do without Mira? I count on our weekly outings so much. Selina says she's too busy (haven't seen her since April!) and it's too hot out for Momo, so it looks bad for me and Mag.

I hope the owner sees reason and gives the mare up to Ani, and Ani can care for her for the short time she has left.




     






7 comments:

Kitty Bo said...

Poor Ani. I'm glad she has you for a friend. I hope something works out.

Anonymous said...

What a sad situation. Anti is caught in the middle, between a seemingly uncaring owner and a sweet horse she loves. 😩

AareneX said...

Hopefully she will work out a solution. Maybe she could board with Mag? Is that crazy?

I haven't had an optimal lease situation as you did with Princess. The owners of horses were always more-than-slightly crazy in ways that made me VERY crazy (you knew one of them, but not the other--that one sold the horse and took her away without telling me!).

I probably won't lease a horse again...but never say never, right?

TeresaA said...

Leases can be so difficult. Poor Ani and Mira! The energy may change her mind when she sees Ani is serious.

lytha said...

KB, That really touched me, what you said, that I might be a help to her. Thank you.

LH, I think it will work out.....stay tuned.

Aarene, I got a text from her late last night saying, "Would you consider accepting 80E per month, to keep Mira at your place?" um.......This morning she admitted she was in despair when she sent that SMS. We don't have a good setup for more than 2 - we only have shelter for 2, so if we had three, one would be out. And Mira is not allowed to have free pasture, and it would be inconvenient to separate her every day. Unfortunately, when we tried to build Finally Farm, we had no idea what we were doing.

I'm curious about your *second*? lease? ???? Sounds like you experienced that pulling out the horse from the property without warning the leasor.......awful.

Never never right.

Teresa, have you ever had a lease, or leased a horse? Please tell.

AareneX said...

My second lease was the Toad, and you know all the ugly deets about that. My first lease was a Morgan mare called Beware. She was beautiful. And correctly named. I kept her in my pasture at my first place in Bellingham. One day I came home and she was gone. I called the owner in a panic, after checking the fencelines (undamaged). She'd been sold. They "forgot" to tell me that a.) she was for sale and b.) they were bringing over a person to ride her on my property and c.) she was sold and picked up and gone in the same day while I was at work.

I did get a call from the buyer about 2 months later, saying the mare was psycho (which I knew) and did I want to buy her at an inflated price (which I did not). Beware was sugar-sweet on the ground, always, but she had major hardware missing in the brain cabinet sometimes. By the time they called, I had Story in my pasture and did not need Beware (although if she had been free I might have taken her).

She probably, sadly, went to auction and from there onto the one-way bus to Canada :-(

ellie k said...

Is money the problem or the horse is not for sale? If it is money would it help is people sent small donations to help Ani out? Does the horse have enough years left for Ani to buy it or should she look for another horse.