Sunday, April 10, 2016

So much better

Thanks to Evensong for suggesting I get back on the horse today. Also for the rest of the comments, because my husband read them all (without my asking) and he felt it was important that we go out again today.

I was feeling so depressed and unsure I went to my bedroom, looked at my breeches and just sat there, unwilling to put them on, for 5 minutes.

Also, my arms are killing me from our tug of war yesterday, putting on clothes is painful, especially my left arm, because that was the whip arm of our difficult direction.

I am so grateful Mag is easy to tack up, he grabs the bit happily and never moves when I saddle him or girth him up. I was shaking my head, "How can he be so easy to saddle, and so impossible out there."

As we led Mag down the street, it was obvious that every German person is outdoors today enjoying the sunny Sunday. An entire family was behind us, talking and laughing and taking photos. Mag was very disturbed by them. More disturbed than I've seen him in ages. He couldn't fathom why they were matching our pace so perfectly. He was actually walking down the street sideways, so he could keep an eye on them. And snorting the entire time. Oh boy. I think Mag thought these people would follow us the rest of his life. I said to him, "Pretend you're in a parade." *lol* Finally we arrived at the trail head and they passed us while I tightened the saddle. Mag's eyes were huge, staring and snorting at them as they passed. I said, "Pedestrians. Fussgaenger."

I said to J, "He's either gonna be worse or better today, and I'm dreading finding out."

Today we did almost exactly the same thing as yesterday, but not quite as intense.

I didn't ask Mag to stop quite as often, and I rewarded him for even briefly standing still. I'd ask every 50 meters or so.

I was cracking up because of Aarene's comment that she never could finish the phrase "Good boy" because by the time she said good, the horse was fidgeting again.

Every time I was able to say the whole phrase I laughed and said, "I got to the end of it!"

But he was so much better, he stood longer than the simple phrase and really seemed to get the lesson/routine. Every so often he'd try to grab the rein but he only actually got it once.

He coughed for a while and every cough made me so insecure because he'd throw his back in the air, I thought he was thinking of dumping me but no, just coughing.

He tried head tossing at one point to show his agitation but J kept me in constant conversation, asking me to tell him about Big Bang Theory episodes. That kept me laughing and when we passed a fish pond with people having a campfire (Did they ask the police? I'm not allowed to have a fire in my yard!) Mag got to see flames up close for the first time, and walk through smoke, but it was no big deal.

A couple times while stopped he started to do that backing evasion but I said "Ah ah ah" and J tugged him forward with the rope at the same time. Perfect teamwork.

A string of mountain bikers approached us and I was worried that they'd try to pass us on a narrow trail, but they all stopped for us. I said a loud "Danke!" and "Young horse" and the first guy said, "Old biker." and I laughed. People are so nice around here, mostly, cars go by so slowly around Mag, I have to laugh, "That driver saw impending vehicular damage!"

J fixed his geocache again and Mag stood like a statue - with me on the ground - the entire time. Then I got back on and we made Mag hold still after mounting for a long time again.

On the way home Mag wasn't as relaxed, but we kept our conversation going. We stopped maybe 4 times on the way home. Then for the finale - the spot where he fruck out yesterday. I was not looking forward to that again.

Today in that spot he stood still! I didn't push it, I only waited a few long breaths before jumping off, and praising him enthusiastically, even rubbing under his bridle, and loosening the girth too. J rubbed his head so he was quite sure he was a wonderful horse.

On the way home we walked slowly and Mag stayed well behind us politely and even dropped on the way home, showing his state of relaxation. I said, "Mag, the children!"

Once home I untacked and opened the gate, whistling for them to follow me. I took them all the way to the bit of pasture by the street and opened that gate for them to enjoy the massive amount of new grass there. Much nicer than the rest of the pasture!

I love opening that area up on a Sunday when people are out nordic walking and carriage driving and bike riding and Mag gets to see all that close up.

I'm so relieved and happy right now, I feel like if we can get through this, we can do anything. I never bothered to teach Baasha to hold still, so it has become a priority for me with the others. Mara was super at it because her favorite gait out there was stuck in balk. Mag will have to get this, and I have hope that he will.

14 comments:

AareneX said...

yay yay YAY!

I also loved that he was good and you were laughing. Connected? Oh, heck yes!

Anonymous said...

He will continue to get better. I know you don't have an arena, but I always found that if a horse won't stand still make them trot and move forward until they start to pay attention. Usually it only takes 10-15 minutes, but that seems like a long time. But even if you don't or can't do that, he'll get better and so will you.

Camryn said...

So happy for you, and very glad you tried again so quickly. And your J, such an awesome partner!

Oak Creek Ranch said...

Hooray!! At the Mark Rashid clinic he said that often he has student who struggle and struggle one day, can't get the horse to do whatever, are incredibly frustrated and discouraged -- and then the next day it all falls right into place. So, even though yesterday was incredibly difficult, you made great progress and it showed today. Mag seems like a good horse, he just needs time and confidence and you are giving him all of that.

irish horse said...

Yeah! I didn't get a chance to comment yesterday, but I wanted to say don't get too discouraged. And I'm glad you went out again and it was better! I definitely think keeping the waiting short is the way to go. Like others, I was happy with one or two breaths, then move on. I hope there are more up days than down days, but a green horse is a good challenge, though I still have crappy rides and my horse is far from green!

Kitty Bo said...

So much I wanted to say, but suffice it to say that I sighed relief when I got to the end of this. Please give your husband a big smooch for me. Once after I came off Khanalee, I couldn't get back on without my husband just being there by the arena. Please do teach Mag to yield his head to the side and then the one rein stop. I have used it on a runaway in the woods. I think it's very important. I had an oh shit strap to grab connected to the Ds on my saddle. I used a Pelham strap. It was something to use as an anchor . Never needed it because the one rein stops worked! Everytime you get on, you ask him to yield a few times each side. Before you get on, all the time. Mag is small. It will work!

Kitty Bo said...

PS. I'm proud of you for getting back on. PPS Part of me wushes so badly I could be there to help you work with him. One more thing: Longeing cavessons work well, make it easier to control the nose.

EvenSong said...

So glad today went better! Just remember, baby steps are still steps in the right direction!

Nuzzling Muzzles said...

I'll bet having two rides in a row helped him progress a lot further than he might have otherwise. I've been desperately trying to get several days in a row to ride, but as soon as I get one or two rides in, someone commandeers my schedule or I get sick or injured or it starts pouring rain like today, and I lose my horse time. I do find that a bad ride on one day doesn't always mean that the next ride has to be bad too. Horses are so changeable. It seems that when I'm expecting the worst, I'm surprised by the best, and vice versa. It's all so unpredictable.

Tina said...

Fantastic!!! He'll get use to it. He's had it easy for quite a while. Seems like he remembered all the positives from the day before. I love reading about you and Mag.

Piccolopony said...

Yay! I'm so glad that everything was better today. So wonderful to have J there with you, he sounds like an amazing guy :-)

lytha said...

Redhorse, the idea of letting a horse get tired enough to want to stop, and only then asking, is a good one in certain situations, but I'm afraid the geldings I've ridden will run themselves to death before willingly stopping. If I do get a chance to ride in an arena, I may try it, but I remember how lazy Mag was in an arena, and how easily he stopped. Times like these I wish I had one of Stacy Westfall's "Bred to be lazy" Quarter Horses.

Annette, the only thing worse than having difficulties is having them in a clinic setting with an audience. Humiliation on top of frustration.

Irish, so you specifically work on asking Major to stand still on trail? Did you always do this? I wonder how many people do. I know it's extremely difficult for many horses, esp. Arabs, but I feel like if I can do it every ride, he'll never think it will ever be different. I'm sure there are people who would tell me I'm going to make him MORE barn sour by making things difficult for him.

KB, I usually ask my horse to touch each of my feet after I've mounted. With J there, though, that was tricky because he stands so close to Mag. So I'd just do the right side, for example. I honestly don't know how I'd teach a one rein stop in the woods, we'd fall off the trail. I'll teach it if I ever get to ride in an arena. Wish you were here too: ) Mag is 15HH, which feels big to me after riding 14.1 for so long. When I get off of him, it takes me forever to hit the ground, I notice: )

NM, I find that true too, they do the opposite of my expectations.

Tina, I'm glad you're reading, I'll try to get more photos.

Piccolo, I'll be sure that J reads the comments today! He's not a horse person but does his best to help me.

irish horse said...

Lytha:

I do specifically ask him to stand still. Or stand on a manhole cover, which is even more fun/torturous! He's got it down now, as I'm pretty consistent. It might not be every ride, but pretty damn close. Sometimes I want to take a picture, or make him stand in a puddle, or just breathe because he's getting silly.

But in the beginning, he was a figity mess. He wasn't nervous, he wanted to GO! Now that he knows that he does get to go, it's much better. But that was a hurdle I had to overcome: being brave enough to let him trot and stretch his legs before I could get his brain to focus. I learned as much as he did.

You're doing great!

Achieve1dream said...

Yes me too! I practice standing still anywhere and everywhere. That's why Chrome has gotten so bad is because we didn't practice it all winter when I wasn't riding. Keep practicing and he will get better.

I'm so glad this ride went so much better. What a relief. I'm going to share a dog training philosophy that might help you. It's important to raise only one criteria at a time. You have three criteria. New behavior, duration and distance. So if you are teaching a new behavior such as ground tying, you would stay close and keep duration short. Once the behavior is understood you work on the next criteria, but not both at once!! So you could work on duration, but stay close. Then when you work on distance you would shorten the duration again. An I making sense? I have trouble explaining things. It you want more info email me please! I've found it applies with everything with horses and dogs. Anytime I start falling at something it's because I've skipped a step and I'm asking for too much at once.

Keep up the great work with him! I'm glad J is able to help you. You will turn him into a horse person even if he doesn't want to hehe. Oh and Big Bang Theory is perfect for distracting yourself. I LOVE that show!!