Monday, August 12, 2013

Parts 3 and 4


We had one small break in the sweltering weather so I asked my husband for help with Mara. I told him how Eryn helped, and that I'd need mostly moral support from him, reminders to breathe, etc. This time I had cut myself a little switch from a wispy tree to see if having a crop would help her go forward.


It went very well that day. When Mara balked, I'd circle her, and when she backed, J would grab her lead rope and I'd swat her with the stick. After a while J did not have to be there and he left us at the top of the switchback trail and I went a good ways down, using the crop when she refused.

On the way home I even rode by the shepherd's house with his dogs on cables and chickens and kids. J was behind me - I held mane but again it was no big deal besides spooking in place.

Part 4

Eryn's move was delayed so she was able to come over Friday. I had bought a shiny new riding crop, the kind with the loop so you can hang it on your saddle if you don't need it.

We headed out - me on Mara and Eryn on foot. We went straight to the grassy slope where the problems all began and for the first time, Mara just walked down the hill with me, no refusals at all. Eryn was at the top, just waiting for us. I made sure we went into the woods a ways before turning Mara and heading back. Of course, this was the one day there was no audience at all, so they couldn't see our big improvement!

Then Eryn said she wanted us to go over to the shepherd's place, and ride *down* the hill there, something I'd never done before  - usually we come home that way and it's challenging enough just making it by there with a home-bound horse.

I couldn't refuse so we headed down there. Big spook at a stump Mara had never seen before, and then more sheep on our right to make things challenging. As we neared the house I was pretty much petrified with fear, and Eryn's voice kept encouraging us forward. I didn't know it but she was videotaping us from back there. Finally something put Mara over the edge and she whirled in a circle to escape. I yanked her back around and we were somehow able to continue. Once we made it past, Eryn told us to come back and try again. *sigh* OK then. This time when we were even with the house, the shepherd himself was suddenly standing there, breaking up boxes. The ripping noises were pretty thrilling for Mara. We made it down again but I was at my limit, I couldn't take anymore. Once past the house in the actual woods, it's all easy cuz it's my comfort zone. Eryn was hoping her video would show the difference between me riding in my comfort zone and me riding on the edge of my seat. Sadly the video is pretty shaky, but it does capture that spin she pulled.

We turned around again and a third time, Eryn said, "Go down again." I just couldn't do it - I jumped off the horse and handed her the reins. I said, "I'm done, I can't do it again. Twice is enough for me today. If you want to ride her down it, go ahead, but I'm not sure it will help anything."

What could she say, I'd reached my limit, and Mara had managed it twice. There is plenty of time in the future to go back and work there again. The videos are below.

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I should clarify that this is not a physical thing with Mara, because she has to go both down and up a hill to get to the trailhead, and does not balk getting there (unless we see sheep). The one hill she balks on is a gentle slope in comparison to the road getting there, and once we've past the trailhead she goes pretty well in steeper areas, even spots she has to slide down.

The trailheads represent the door to the office and she doesn't feel like going to work that day. Also she's had some scary encounters right at these trailheads, so she's using that as a reason to try to get out of it.

It's encouraging to hear that some other bloggers have dealt/are dealing with this very issue. I'm glad I'm not alone. I find it interesting that the scenarios are almost identical - a horse refusing a downhill slope anticipating work or scary encounters, trying to intimidate its rider to just back down and get off or go home.

Here's a video of that very first time Mara balked, which totally surprised me. Eryn was riding, and Eryn was not nervous, so that wasn't a cause on this day.

Here's the first time she went down the hill without balking at all. Eryn responds to me noticing that for the first time, we don't have a family of onlookers watching us. Bummer, they  missed it! No action at all to see here, it was very nice.

Here's part one of me riding by the shepherd's house, and part two.  (I've named them "Just go down the hill" even though usually I mean that grassy slope when I say that. Strangely, in these vids, you cannot see the house of doom very well, nor the sheep on the other side. Know that when Eryn says "Watch out for the fence" she means the BARBED WIRE fence just to keep things interesting there. : ) )

Totally unrelated, below are pics from when I cleaned out muck from our tiny pond and Mara investigated the muck, my net, and the creepy creatures that come out of the muck.


9 comments:

Nuzzling Muzzles said...

Interesting creatures emerging from the mud. Mara spins quick. That's pretty intimidating. Lostine used to run backwards too. Maybe it's a little chestnut mare thing. I'd usually smack her on the rump with the crop and she'd jump forward, then walk forward, but I like the circling to prevent the horse from backing.

EvenSong said...

Not a red mare thing, Nuz, 'cause Kate does it too. ;-)
I think you're definitely on the right track, Lytha: consistency and "persistence-y" will get you there, as illustrated by Mara's cooperation the final time on the grassy hill. I think maybe Eryn was using a bit of a "switch" on you, to encourage you to push yourself a little farther, along with Mara. But you always have the right to say enough...
Good work.

kbryan said...

It is a pleasure to read of your progress. That was an awesome description of what the trailhead represents to her. "The trailheads represent the door to the office and she doesn't feel like going to work that day."

I had to laugh when I read that she was starting anticipating your circle correction and started doing it on her own. She is a smart mare, and I'm glad that you understand her so well.

I was sorry to read that Eryn will be leaving. Seems like you to had a good time together, and I wanted to see Bellis pulling a cart! By the way, in the photo of Bellis, her coat looks so pretty and healthy.

Keep up the good work.

Tara said...

My Pinto is like that...He spins out like that in a blink...

Tara

AareneX said...

HA, naughty mare.

Fiddle used to balk All. The. Time.

Especially at the top of a hill when all the trails point down. She would flat-out refuse to move forward, and if I kept pushing her, she'd switch her tail, give a little half-rear, or even try to kick me out of the saddle with a back foot. Fortunately, she was very out-of-shape at the time, and I was still pretty fit from prolonged wrassling matches with the Toad, so I could keep on persisting...and that's what it took. "It's impossible!" she would insist, and I'd get one reluctant step forward and then another.

Sooooo glad those days are behind us now. She will now balk occasionally balk at something just to be naughty, but then I make her go backwards in the direction I want, which she TRULY hates, so she caves in to my unreasonable demands pretty promptly.

The circling with Mara definitely works--she clearly doesn't like to circle and doesn't want to be thwarted. How happy she will be when she understands that you aren't asking for horrible impossible things--and that she can do what you want *easily*.

She is going to be awesome.

CG said...

Cartman tried the back up thing when asked to go down some steeper trails when he was still really green.

I also would spin (when there was room!) and then smack him with my split reins.

I think it was the end of summer when it happened and soon after we had to go back to doing more arena work. When we got back to the trails the next year he never tried it again.

hainshome said...

What *are* those mud creatures, anyway??!

Kitty Bo said...

I am so there with you on this. And I understand also how you reach your limit also. Boy do I know what big imaginations Arabians can have, and especially when they are "all alone!" I am so proud of you, and what a blessing Eryn has been.

lytha said...

nm, i don't know what i'd do with cholla all around. i always think of you when doing this cuz your trailhead seems to cause issues with yours as well.

evensong, i absolutely need the impetus provided by a coach right now: )

kay, bellis looks so different in her summer coat. any day now she'll start getting her winter coat again, what she has almost all year. j keeps pointing out her long hooves and i've called the farrier but i'm so pleased my man can tell when hooves need trimming now: ) i don't feel that i know mara very well, actually, but it helps to have a second opinion about her, which eryn provided right away. "she's just being a cow!" eryn must have said a hundred times.

tara, i hate the spinning!

aarene, really, fiddle balked too? what is with all these horses that balk at a downhill slope? it's really helpful to hear that so many others (6 now?) have gone through balking issues, because i'd never had to deal with that before.

cg, cartman did that too? i'm afraid you might be right that some fine tuning in the arena would help.

becky, i'm glad someone asked. most of those are little salamandars with bright orange undersides. that insecty thing is actually a dragonfly larva (larva?). spooky creepy gross! we have some other odd things in there i'll have to try to photograph later. it's a "documentary" in there as luke would say.