....and led my hyperventilating mare the other 3:45 hours.
I was very excited to try out my new easyboot gloves but one of them broke immediately as I tried to put it on. The gaiter just ripped 1/3 off, the stitching coming apart as I bent it back. I’m no newbie to gaiters, and I wrote this in my return mail package. I was so incredibly bummed I just sat there staring at the horse, all my plans of actually going on a real trail ride or with friends disappeared down a spiral of disappointment.
What is going on here, why can’t I just go ride this horse?
Also, the 00.5s across the street fit perfectly, and my new ones are a real pain to get on. My man had to help. Then I remembered you can use a hammer to help if you’re a weakling like me. I rasped the hooves to make it easier, but my man said there’s no way they’ll fit in there. We had our measuring tape and her hooves seem to be 4 mm wider than the boots themselves. But they go on, so who knows.
I took Mara down an uncommon trail and saw a little creek I wanted to take her over to see if she would. The problem was there were sharp branches of fir trees poking out everywhere. I broke the one I thought might skewer her, but when she leapt the creek with an exaggerated, sky high/long jump, she took down many of those branches. I was shocked she did not lose an eye. That was a pretty bad decision but we spent a lot of time there, contemplating water in its liquid state, and I stared at the flickering sunlight reflecting off the water onto a tree for a while. I got her to walk politely over it on the way back, but she didn’t trust the other direction, leaping it massively again. OK we’d better just go somewhere else.
Right next to that scary creek is a post with several rolls of barbed wire. She’d seen it once before, but for some reason it’s even scarier now. I almost couldn’t lead her past it, so I did some lunging circles away from it, then when she got closer, I let her graze. We did this about 10 minutes, til she was standing right next to it. I was disgusted because I’m certain it will be just as scary next time.
I walked her to another stable she’d never seen, and for some reason there were no horses around! Odd. Walking along their fence line, a plowed field on the other side of us, Mara was almost airborne, she was walking so freakily. She kept her distance, but wow, she was high.
I swear, she gets no grain, and since our hay got mowed last week, she cavorts and gallops the field for the fun of it, self-exercising beautifully, hooves thundering on the ground as she loops our field. But somehow she’s pumped up high still.
On the way home I jumped on her but only rode about 10 meters – she was way too nervous and wanted to race, not just walk.
She always has a big sweat mark under her saddle/bareback pad, as though I’d actually ridden her. That’s all from nerves. *sigh* (Though I love a sweaty horse, I want it to be through actual work.)
Saturday was not much better, because I took her to another new area. This time it was a pretty big jump in distance.
I’d dreamed of taking her to the Eifgen river (stream really) because I know a safe place where horses cross. The trouble is it’s an hour away by foot. I decided to go for it. The scary part is we have to go through the little “downtown” part of our village to get there, going by bakeries and shops and scary garden gnomes. What I assumed would be the worst part, what really had me worried, was we had to cross an overpass over the “highway” below (70KPH road). A sunny Sunday, there were lots of motorcycle groups out, taking this road way too fast and very loud. We stood at the edge of the bridge, and I let her get a long look at how cars approach on one side, and then slip out suddenly from the other. I have no idea if she’s ever been on a highway bridge before. But it was no problem. I told her, “OK, that was the worst part, I promise.”
I lied.
I had completely forgotten about the cow fields ahead, that the trail winds in between. So, cows on both sides. OH CRAP.
I thought man if I can get her through this, I can get her through anything. Let’s go.
Why do both fences on either side of us have to be low, nearly invisible barbed wire?
Why did the cows decide that they simply HAD to come greet my horse, from both sides? Was it her ear-shattering alarm call? (When a horse blows abruptly through its nose to alert others of danger--you know how impressive that sounds.)
We made it, and I made her stand on the far side, just past the cows, thinking about it. Not that it helped, they were still all staring at her, some of them getting up from their naps to come even closer, as close as they could get to the novel creature, a fire-breathing quivering “not cow.”
Man, I thought, how the heck am I gonna get her home, through that gauntlet? And how annoying, I’m not even thinking of riding her, I’m still on the ground like a wussy, leading her around!
We went 0,9Km straight down to that little river and I was happy to see she walked right into it with me. In fact, on the way down there was a perfect little rock-bedded stream that crossed our trail 3 times and I just walked her over it again and again, going in circles. She’s totally fine. She’s just like Baasha – leap water/puddles whenever possible, then get wet when you must.
Finally at the river I waded right in, relieved to be there. She was right with me, no problem. I was annoyed to see LOTS of trail users down there. Almost constant people. Well it was a sunny Sunday.
As we stood there a group of people and 6 dogs approached.
I didn’t have to count. This one lade started shouting at me (over the watery noises), “We have SIX dogs here and they’re dirty and we need to bathe them here!”
I blinked at her kind of stupidly, trying to figure out what she was saying and what she could want from me. One other lady said, “Is the horse OK with dogs?”
I said, “I don’t know the horse very well. Probably, I don’t know. I am trying to see if she is OK with water at the moment.”
There was some sort of discussion amongst the group and they didn’t seem happy with my answer.
A couple of the loose dogs just walked right into the water and plopped down, bath accomplished. The others were on leashes. I said, “Go ahead and bathe them, I’ll move upstream a bit.” So I walked about 3 meters further away, making a distance of about 7 between us.
One lady came closer and said, “It would be great if you took your horse out of the stream and went back up the trail in that direction.”
What-what?!??
She did NOT address me with the formal “you” – when means she was completely out of line.
And then there’s the asking me to leave part.
I said, “Go ahead and bathe the dogs – it’s no problem.”
I watched as one at a time the people led their dogs to the water’s edge and knelt down, trying to stay dry, and splashed their dogs with water. I smiled at them.
After they left, I wondered what the deal was.
I think I figured it out.
They probably wanted to take the dogs off leash and let them splash and roll around in the water. But since a horse was standing in the river, perhaps they thought their dogs would approach the horse and bark or bite or get kicked or something.
That is the only reason I can think of why they would ask me to leave.
I called my man on my cell after they had left. He said, “I would have told them, ‘Are your dogs embarrassed to take a bath with a horse watching?’”
Yah, it would have been better if my man had been there, as usual!
Also, this is another experience where my being a foreigner influenced the situation. I think if I had been back home, I would have explained myself to the ladies. I would have said, “I just spent an hour getting here, by foot, to see if my horse is afraid of water. You can surely understand why I’m not inclined to just leave after arriving.” But I cannot say for sure. What I am certain of is that if my man had been there, there would have been more of an information exchange!
BTW, horse riders pay a yearly fee to use these trails. Dog owners, pilgrims (this is a pilgrim trail), and bicyclists do not have to pay. (But I have not started paying again, not yet.)
I did jump on Mara to ride up that steep hill but she was way too jumpy and forward, jumping at things she’d seen on the way down, falling to her knees at one point. Yellow-blooming scotch broom is a problem? Oh geez.
We spent a lot of time with the cows as soon as we’d gotten through the gauntlet again. It was fun to watch the cows drink from their automatic waterer. They’d each lick the water first like a dog, and then lick their noses, and then they’d start sucking. Automatic waterers are normal to Mara (not to Baasha), so this did not bother her. She did not like the one cow with the placenta dragging behind her, coming right up to us! (What’s up with that placenta – these are milk cows.)
I had said a prayer that I not lose my horse that day, and thank God I did not. When I got home I put a little pill container/geocache on her saddle, with my contact info inside. I put an American flag sticker on it to make it easier to identify me if we are found separated *lol*
We got home together: )
In which this story comes to a very satisfying end, at last
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15 comments:
What if you just ride her around your field a few times? Give her a chance to get comfortable with you in the saddle (bareback pad) in a place that she's familiar with?
Just an idea! :)
What if you just ride her around your field a few times? Give her a chance to get comfortable with you in the saddle (bareback pad) in a place that she's familiar with?
Just an idea! :)
Ugh. Not a fun phase to be going through with your horse. Hand-walking is not wussy behavior. I'm a big fan of hand-walking horses. Not only do you get more exercise being on your feet, but it helps form a bond between you and your horse and helps both of you learn the route and get used to surprises along the way without her having to worry about you being on her back and you having to worry about controlling her when she's nervous.
I'm glad you held your ground in the water and didn't move along just because someone told you to. I've had a few people try to tell me what to do with my horse while I've been out on the trails, and I don't take kindly to it. I do get tired of people asking me why I'm walking my horse and not riding it. Why is it any of their business? I've also had other horseback riders come galloping to the rescue because they assumed that since I'm off my horse, I must have fallen.
Well,shucks, she is being a stinker. That sucks that the boot broke so quickly (carry duct tape), hope you get a replacement soon. But look at the bright side - you got LOTS of exercise. I do hope, hope, hope that your next outing goes a lot better! Hang in there.
When I moved to Nevada with Dixie, I discovered she was utterly terrified of rocks.
There are many rocks in Nevada.
It was no fun. Hugs!
You are getting braver!! LOL Great exposure for you, although I am sure you had heart palpitations!! Why are cows so scary!! LOL The neighbors scare mine!
Your Man in so funny! LOL
Yeeha!
That Mara Mare, She's Gonna Be Great Someday.All This Is Really Great Stuff Girl!!
That Cow Gaunlet Must Have Been Something Else. You Didn't Lie, You Just Underestimated It!
There's This Llama Alley I Ride
Down...And I've Always Thought
Of You Because,"Mare E" , A Cute
Bay Arabian Mare Lives With The
8 Llamas! She Rules Them. She
Makes Them Part And Leave,
When We Come By. This Helps My
Mare Understand The
Order...She's Over Them. Well, The
Other Day,"Mare E" Was Missing
And They All Loped Over To
Us...Huffing, Spittin!! Holly Crap,
That Was A Long Gaunlet,Made
Short!
Sorry About Those Boots! Mine Fit
Tight Too...I Take The Pastern
And Tap Her Toes And The Boot Into
Place...Took WA A While Before
She'd Allow Me To Do That, But It
Works, Without Using The Wrap To
Pull It On. A Rubber Mallet Could
Be Good. I'm Trimming Every 2
Weeks Now, To Use My Boots. No
Prob Really.
Wow!! I'm So Glad You Went! My
Man Is Marjory Diplomatic..Those
Women Would Have Been
Laughing With Either Of Our Dudes
To Run Interference! Glad You
Stood Your Creek!
Do It Again!! Loved It!
Oh And,I NEVER GO OUT, even 5 Mi From The Stable
Out The Back, Without My I.C.E.
TAGS!!
I Have One For WA With
Stable Address, Phone, Vet Number. It Clips To Her Saddle Or Anywhere.
And Tags For My Neck, With Medicine Allergies, What I
Take(Don't) Contact Info, All Of It.
Good Call. Be Prepared!
I know you're having the deuce of a time, but you write it so wonderfully that I feel a little guilty enjoying the retelling. :)
I know you guys will have this down pat in no time. Keep it up!
Slow and steady wins the race . . .
Does she have a "safe area", where you can be with her, and work with her, where she can let down her defences and relax a bit. Sounds like she may be a bit overwhelmed by all the new things she's being exposed to, although considering that she's doing very well.
If you can create a "safe" work area - if only a circle near the barn, and take her back there between new experiences to feel better, you can build on that good feeling. Also some "safe" activities - circles and serpentines can work for this. Just some ideas . . .
I'm with Horseyhabit - it may be that you need to take this back to baby steps. Successful work in familiar spot w/slow, small new challenges. Otherwise, if it's all new-new-new, she is going to get overwhelmed and assume every work session is new terror awaiting her. Imagine if you had to learn to learn all the skills to drive on an interstate highway all at once, instead of first driving slowly in a parking lot, then on a deserted street, then on town roads, then moving your way into serious traffic. Some thrive on "trial by fire", but others need small, gradual successful achievements. My mare is very much this way, so I sympathize completely with your frustration.
I'm with Horseyhabit - it may be that you need to take this back to baby steps. Successful work in familiar spot w/slow, small new challenges. Otherwise, if it's all new-new-new, she is going to get overwhelmed and assume every work session is new terror awaiting her. Imagine if you had to learn to learn all the skills to drive on an interstate highway all at once, instead of first driving slowly in a parking lot, then on a deserted street, then on town roads, then moving your way into serious traffic. Some thrive on "trial by fire", but others need small, gradual successful achievements. My mare is very much this way, so I sympathize completely with your frustration.
Ack. You're doing all the right stuff. Just keep breathing and pretending to be patient. And praise! Don't forget the verbal praise!
I wish we lived closer together--turns out that the Dragon is very good at teaching young horses to relax and walk calmly on trails. Who would've guessed?
horseyhabit - our pasture encourages galloping. i only rode baasha in our pasture twice, and it was really hard to convince him not to take off with me.
kate - the safe area is the boarding stable across the street, and the street in front of our home. we use the safe area often, taking short walks or visiting the stable, but i have to branch out sometimes. i don't want it to be all stressful, so i have to decide how often to go further. riding circles and serpentines is all we do when in an arena, because i can tell if i just used the whole thing, she'd find reasons to be bad.
she gets bored easily, i noticed this when i first met her. and although it's stressful, she gives me the impression she's bored and wants to get out and do things.
My heart so goes out to you. Khanalee was such a basket case when I first got him. His breeder told me his mother was innately spooky. He'd get used to the cows in the pasture next to him, but if the neighbor across the road got new cows, they were from hell. His response under saddle when spooked was to bolt. I finally learned about one rein stops. Over the years he did improve, but he always hated 3 wheelers (if he saw them on the horizon, he'd watch), and he didn't like trailer noises or the tractor. But he did get better. I think having a good secure saddle will help, and I grew to appreciate a standing martingale. When I got my second Arabian, Maguire, age 4 at the time, I spent a lot of time at home riding before I rode him elsewhere. Have you thought about schooling her in a one rein stop? I've stopped a lot of bolts with that. I appreciate that Clinton Anderson teaches this first thing in his clinics. Of course, it comes after teaching them to yield their heads on the ground and other importnat ground work. I've grown to really appreciate him. I wish I'd seen his TV show sooner, before I had to give up horses. One last thing, I wouldn't care if she were bored in the arena. She needs to go to school and learn some things under saddle, like yielding her head and neck, turn on forehand, yielding the hindquarters, one rein stops, softness in the bridle. Please don't let her intimidate you with her "boredom."
Isn't it funny what they are afraid of and what they aren't afraid of?? Silly Mara! Spooky horses can be such a pain, but once you gain her trust you will have such a strong bond with her. That's one thing I do like about mares. Once you gain their trust they will do anything for you. :)
As for the ladies with the dogs.... I probably would have said something rude LOL! So good job!
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