Friday, October 29, 2010

Last Lesson

Today I quit my riding school. I did it after my lesson, when the instructor told me my package of 5 was up. I said "I won't be coming back because I'm not comfortable with the side-reins/draw reins on all the horses." She was surprised because I'd just had a really nice lesson on a new horse and had overcome some big hurdles that morning. I said "The horses here are nice, the ladies are great, but I am morally against the devices."

I didn't go into detail with her, because I believe any riding instructor should already know the arguments circling these devices. I did, however, go into great detail with Anja on the way to the barn this morning. I gave her the run-down:

  • The horses are always on the forehand
  • The horses never learn to collect willingly because they are forced into a headset
  • The horses become heavy and dependent on the devices
  • The devices are not used part of the time, or on some of the horses, rather all the time, all the horses
  • The riders never have the chance to really learn to ride

Anja said, "Oh, but so many kids get on those horses..."

And I interrupted her, "Everyone knows that these devices are 'Not for Beginner's Hands' yet no advanced rider would use them."

She said, "Practically all the riding schools use them." This is reminiscent of what Sjef Janssen (The Dutch rollkur coach) said, "All top riders use rollkur!"

Then my search will be difficult.

It was hard because I really like the people, and the horses aren't that bad.

Anja gave me the name of a couple of riding schools she thinks might not use devices, but in looking at their websites right away I see photos like this:















So anyway, I wanted to share about my lesson. It had been 3 weeks so as the other ladies eagerly picked their favorite horses, I was left with the horse I said I would never ride --Scarlett. I'd seen her freak out under one rider, resulting in that rider handing her over to a trainer, and I'd seen her bucking a fair share. And she's gi-nor-mous. Over 17 hands. I said "No" when told I'd be riding her. I was told I must, and promised she'd be good for me.

The horse is so big I don't know how she fit though the doorway but I started grooming. Her feet were the size of plates. Her ears are twice as long as Baasha's. Her back is so high, only on my tiptoes could I reach the brush up there to groom it, but I certainly couldn't see it! But her manners were great, and she seemed really calm, which really helped me. I gave her some long strokes, massaging her neck and chest, telling her I hope we can be friends for the next hour.

She actually lowered her head for the bit, which was good cuz I did not have a ladder.

Then I got in trouble for ---GASP--- walking the horse to the arena with the stirrups let down! Good heavens I never realized what a danger stirrups hanging down could be. I wonder what they do with the western horses - saddle them in the arena? I was annoyed as they told me "The stirrup could bang against her and scare her." That means she's probably not broke to ride. *sigh*

I got her to the arena and the instructor came right to me and tried to make me breathe. Yah, I was terrified, looking up at this monster horse. I don't think I've ever ridden a horse this big and I was kind of hyperventilating, or not breathing at all.

I adjusted her flash too loose, and I adjusted her side/draw reins on the loosest possible setting, and to my delight, I saw that her head was not held behind the vertical. The instructor somehow let that slip, I don't know why, but her head was not set in that place all the others' were. And looking at this photo from a few weeks ago, I see that usually it is adjusted 8 inches tighter than what I did today. See the extra leather bit hanging down in front of the rider's foot? I had nothing hanging down because I used the very last hole. How did I get away with that!

The instructor helped me get on with a very tall mounting block. It was almost dizzying for me to be so high up. I was very grateful to be sitting on a Wintec, with its grippy seat, it felt like my own saddle.

"Don't worry. Take a deep breath. Now remember: this horse doesn't like her reins tight." OK good to know.

My mind's eye was on her bucking the other riders, and balking suddenly with another. I said a prayer.

Oddly as soon as she started walking, I settled down and was able to relax. Faking it can only go on for so long.

I just thought, "OH, we'll just walk circles for an hour and then I can get off as quick as possible."

But it was actually a really good lesson. And I had hoped for the chance to ride a different horse, after all.

I had to use the crop to get her light off my legs and seat cues and then she was springing forward for me. I kept the reins so loose she stretched down, and everytime I saw our reflection in the mirror, I was shocked at how tiny I looked. My legs did not even come down her sides, I looked like a kid. The other riders were all way down there, also looking small. I felt like I could have held my arms straight out sideways and never hit anyone as they passed.

The mare is white with a dark mane and her long forelock and long roman nose made her face look like an Andalusion. The arena was definitely too small for her big strides.

Then I ran into her issue - she likes to just zone out and follow the other horses. I can see how that would be easier for a school horse. And how it became habit with other riders just allowing the follow. I purposefully spent the hour doing things independently of them, staying clear away. She'd still tend to drift when one came near. And when it was time to canter, and all the others were blazing around, I was too scared, on such a big horse, but then I realized she was zoning again and wanted to "Just Follow" so I grabbed the Oh S*** handle and let her go. Her canter was so big in a couple strides were were at the end of the arena facing the too-small short end. My first thought was this freight train is gonna wreck but somehow we didn't. I don't know the word for "freight train" in German so I shouted to the instructor, "She's a semi!"

And I had to laugh, cuz I was having fun. I let go of the O.S. handle. She was even able to counter canter for me when I asked, something I was nervous about asking Gina (and I saw Gina give a good buck when asked today!).

Then I wanted to see if I could collect her huge body. Sitting the trot was fine on her, because her strides were gigantic, but she resisted collecting. She kept telling me, "I can't!" and the instructor said, "Yah, collection is really hard for her cuz she's so big, but she can do it."

Finally I had her mind all to myself, and we did figure 8s and many small circles and lots of transitions and then I had this really great moment: she did a trot serpentine for me collected, properly switching bend back and forth, and on a loose rein even! The instructor saw it and from her reaction, I knew I'd really achieved something.

The mare didn't know/remember how to back up, so we worked on that a bit too. By the end I had her backing three entire steps (hard for her) and then springing into a trot. She became light and really a pleasure, but to be honest, her canter was way too exciting for me. She simply needs a bigger arena for me to feel safe, especially with so many other riders. I'm used to having a little more time before being faced with another wall coming at me.

I have learned so much these past few weeks. I learned that a quick tune up can make a light, forward horse. I learned I can ride enormous horses - even the ones who weren't as huge, seemed huge to me at first.

Once you're up there it doesn't seem as different compared to the view from the ground.

(The top photo is Scarlett.)

12 comments:

Formerly known as Frau said...

I really hope you find a place that fits for you. Sounds like you ended up enjoying it, good to stand your ground. Have a wonderful weekend!

jill said...

Good for you for sticking to your guns. It is so sad how bad habits/gadgets suddenly become the norm and expected. It's in all riding disciplines really. Western pleasure head dragging and four beat lopes, BTV dressage, set hands and laying on the horse's back in hunters...poor horses.
I hope you can find a place that suits you better. There are horses out there that need a nice rider like you!

Fantastyk Voyager said...

It's too bad you can't continue your lessons but I totally agree with the draw reins issue. Interesting, I never knew they used them for lesson horses so much.

She must have been a big girl. I would feel the same way as you about riding her. I am too used to the little bitty Arabs now. My girls are 14.3.

I took jumping lessons for a few months when I was a teenager. I always liked to ride Edgar. He was a Thoroughbred, now that I think about it, he was tall, but lean. I used to have to climb up on his back. He liked to buck when I asked for the canter. That's why I liked to ride him. Lol. He was the only horse that willingly moved out. The others would go into that dead zone and want to follow the other lesson horses. I quickly decided I had more fun on my own horses.

Anonymous said...

Hope you find another place that is better. It sounds like you got some good things out of your time there, which means the time certainly wasn't wasted.

calihorsegirl said...

What's surprising is that Germans are renowned as being great equestrians, and many of them are. But here in the states, every German rider I've seen lets their horse go around completely hollow, heads in the air, like they have no idea how to collect them. This may be the reason why. I've ridden hunter and western pleasure, we all know how to collect our horses and have them do it without much pressure on their mouths. Sounds like some Americans need to come open a riding school in Germany. Look at our reining horses, completely collected with loose reins. Sure some gadgets are used time to time - and western pleausure is the biggest culprit - but at least kids learn how to collect their horse. I don't know how you handle your cool during those lessons. I'm getting mad just reading your posts.

Nuzzling Muzzles said...

You've got to stand up for what you believe in, and because you spoke of it openly and honestly, I'm sure you had an impact on their thinking. The whole thing about the stirrups bumping her sides and scaring her is silly. When I trained Gabbrielle, I walked alongside her on each side picking up and dropping the stirrups against her side. It does suggest they the horse isn't an appropriate choice for schooling if they worry about such things.

lytha said...

Frau, Thank you, I hope so too.

Jill, What is "Set hands and laying on the back" cuz I really enjoy watching the hunters, they seem so natural. Funny that you say "nice rider" cuz I have used a crop more in these last few weeks than I have in a few years back home! Ah, the nature of the school horse is to have dead sides, but it doesn't have to be so!

FV, I used to think 15.2 was big!

Kate, exactly. Not wasted, a real learning experience. The more horses I get to ride, the better!

Cali, I get pretty mad actually, I just don't know how to express myself quickly in German sometimes. Strangely, reining and western riding is becoming popular here, and I watched the barn manager riding her reining horses today for a long time. The western horses don't have any gadgets! And WP is cool here cuz it's not total slow-motion.

I was totally apalled when the ladies afterwards were pointing to a fat mare saying the owner thinks she's pregant, but doesn't know. I said "Well, why doesn't she get an exam?" and they answered, "What does it matter- either a baby comes out or it doesn't!" I was so shocked I was speechless and they said "What? What's your problem?" I said, "Well, aside from needing more food, perhaps vitamins and minerals..." (but honestly curiosity is a biggie - if it were my horse I'd have to know!) Then again I don't know much about pre-natal mare care. I just read that they need lots of worming and shots, something that mare will not get, cuz no one wants to preg check her. And then they went on to say another mare at the barn had an unexpected baby one day. So even though the horses are in good shape for the most part, I can see some serious fugly-site-worthiness going on.

Also, the instructor corrected me for stretching the mare's legs after tightening the girth - she says that hurts their skin by the girth. Get out!!

And someone please tell me is it really dangerous to lead a horse with stirrups down? I've never had an issue in so many years of English riding.

AareneX said...

What a great learning experience you've given all of US!!! I do usually slide my english stirrups up out of habit, but lord knows that I trot my horse out for the vets with those stirrups banging away on her ribs. Not an issue for a TRAINED horse, duh.

It's interesting that so many people think that big horse = heavy on the bit + can't bend. Maybe it took longer for my big mare to attain the muscles that make bending possible, but she's always been light on the bit, even right off the harness track. Maddy almost came off over Fee's head once when she discovered that the "brakes" are pretty tight on her--just wiggle a finger and you can get collection and stop!

Riding a big horse can be FUN! I just wish mine came with a built-in rope ladder.

Funder said...

Great work standing up for yourself! I hate confronting people, so it would have been very tempting for me to make up an excuse about why I wouldn't be coming back. Maybe quitting was easy for you - but it sounds so brave to me!

And you're quite a good rider. Does Scarlett have a really thin neck? It looks like it from that photo. But I guess she never gets to use it, poor thing. Good work with her - that was probably the most pleasant ride she's had in a while.

I never knew anybody to preg check a horse in Memphis. If she was bred or maybe-bred, and she didn't appear to come back into heat, the owner would try to guess a due date and give vaccines, etc., based on that.

lytha said...

NM, I did the same thing with Baasha in his training. I bet there are circumstances where horses have had their sturrips catch on things and died as a result, and maybe it happened at that barn. I always thought running up the stirrups was just about aesthetics.

Aarene, interesting what you said about bending, cuz many of the top dressage horses are huge and they must bend to do their jobs.

I sure did enjoy the big strided trot we were getting in the arena that day. I kept passing people and my horse wasn't working hard at all - in the end, all the others had clouds of steam, and my mare was dry. That is also cuz I was too much of a wimp to push for much more of that gigantic canter in that normal sized arena. Truly we had a great time and I know I can do it now - that size is normal here so I'd better get used to it.

Funder, I had to tell the truth, but I did not tell all the ladies in my group. I didn't have the energy to start that God vs. No God discussion again (as from our last lesson). So I wimped out and when the ladies said "See you next week" I nodded. WIMP!

However, the riding teacher deserved to know, and the way gossip works, I know the ladies will find out soon enough.

I find it funny that you say I could be a good rider even though I typed about how terrified I was. Shouldn't good riders be brave? I wish I were a brave person. I can only thank my uncountable Arabian spooking experiences for my tendency to stick in the saddle. But that doesn't always happen either. You are too kind.

Maybe her neck looks thin in the picture, or maybe it is really thin, I didn't really take a good look. The other riders told me that she used to be "on fire" when you rode her, and now she needs a crop to move forward, so I guess she's adapted to school life, huh?

Funder said...

Lytha, I really think being brave is doing it anyway, not being fearless. Dixie and I work well together now, and I'm kind of fearless on her.. but a year ago I was just being brave and faking it. You are brave to ride hot school horses so well. :)

White Horse Pilgrim said...

Plus of course you are 'foreign' and that makes it a whole lot harder to get away with pointing out something that is wrong.

But really it sounds as if some of those people simply are fearful - afraid of what a big horse could do (panic at a banging stirrup!), afraid of not being 'correct', afraid of being original, whatever else scares them.

There again perhaps 'correctness' and 'being in control' have deliberately been implanted in the German psyche following well known historical events?

I'm thinking back to running an equestrian tourism business. German trail riders tended to be pretty competent on the whole and would do as they were told (such as riding on a loose rein). That was more than one could say for many English riders. (Plus Germans didn't need to start drinking at 3pm!) It was rare to meet a German rider who lied about their erxperience then made a fool of themselves. But then there would be some issue about what was 'correct' in the hotel. Whereas the English would be too drunk to notice. The German travel agents (Pegasus Reiterreisen - may they never darken my life again) were greedy whingers who would have been satisfied if we'd starved our horses and our people in order to cut prices.

How horse stuff creates passion!